This is a poem I wrote to Jeremy over the past two weeks. I wanted to share it here, in hopes that it makes you feel:1) seen2) not alone in […]
How Christmas Feels to the Grieving
I suppose most would rather not think about death and loss at this time of year, but for the valley-walker, there is no escaping reality. Mistletoe mocks. Once-tinseled trees lay […]
Healing from the Inside Out
Years ago, following our baby girl’s open heart surgery, doctors were unable to close her sternum, so they sewed a patch over her incision, and sent her to the PICU. […]
Death Gives Way to Life
It was a sunny October afternoon when death came to visit. Once my favorite season—filled with family birthdays at apple orchards, hot pumpkin spice lattes on crisp, frosty mornings and […]
Go Ahead and Scream
The year our daughter died, I had to stop watching the news. I remember every time there was a big news story about a tragedy, I could hardly keep the […]
Early Retirement: Why Does God Allow Good Men to Die Young?
Just a few weeks after my husband’s funeral, a young friend stopped by the church to see me. She wondered why God would allow a godly man’s life to be […]
Butterfly Theology
There are few creatures more fragile than the butterfly. So God lovingly created each one with the instinct to protect and preserve herself during storms, knowing that rain and wind […]
Step Out of the Boat: Overcoming Fear in Grief
About nine months after Jeremy left for his eternal Home, a friend took us out to do some sunset tubing on the lake. My 12-yr-old had been looking forward to […]
Parable of an Ice Cream Cone
I pass by a small child, with a deliciously drippy ice cream cone in her hand on a sweltering hot day. What joy she must be feeling in that moment! […]
That Which Appears to be Dead
Self Portrait “I took this picture today. Looking at it later it dawned on me, this is a picture of widowhood. See that tree, unnoticeable at first, in the middle?? […]
Choreography of Compassion
Dear friends, Another Mother’s Day has passed and Father’s Day is upon us. It is right and fitting to honor those we love. But what of the orphan, the childless, […]
A Widowed Mother’s Day
Today, I will most ardently miss the one who made me a mother. I will miss being celebrated by him. I will miss watching him teach our children to honor […]

