When Karissa died, Jeremy and I were newlyweds, living on a single Christian School teacher’s salary. Meaning, we didn’t have two nickels to rub together. Thankfully, my parents were gracious […]
Birth, Death and Adoption
Exactly 8 days before our little girl went to Heaven, on February 28th, our little boy was born. We just didn’t know it yet.  God knew. He knew I’d […]
Anorexia vs Faith
Not many years before we lost Jeremy, we almost lost our 14-year-old daughter. We helplessly watched as she slowly and painfully tried to take her own life. The diagnosis was […]
God’s Plan for Suffering
My valley-walk was not wasted, for ‘twas there I met the Shepherd. “Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil for […]
On Job and Suffering
Over the next week, I’ll be sharing my thoughts on the book of Job. For 25 years, I’ve pondered this book and what it means to those who mourn. These […]
God With Us In Our Grief
I wrote this on Christmas Day, 2021—ten weeks after Jeremy graduated to Glory. I believed it then, and I know it to be true now, more than ever. He is […]
Skipping Christmas
Wanna skip Christmas this year? I hear you. And I get it. But perhaps there’s another way. Here are some thoughts on celebrating Christmas, even when our Christmas isn’t, at […]
Thankful, Grateful, Grieving
Grief and gratitude can coexist. You can be truly thankful and also deeply saddened by the empty chair at your table. Leave space for your memories today. Then, through your […]
Thankful for Grief
I am thankful for grief. Hear me out… Grief is love. 🥀 Not, “I once loved,” but rather, “I love still.” I am privileged to have had a love that […]
Love Bends Down
She was exhausted. She was out of her comfort zone. She’d had enough. So, he just sat with her. For as long as it took.
Because love bends down.
Like a good earthly father sits by his struggling child—tenderly, lovingly, patiently—so our good heavenly Father stoops down to us in our need. For as long as it takes.
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When You Want to Ask Why
When we realized Jeremy wasn’t going to make it, I looked at my dad and asked, “Why does this keep happening to me?” When bad things happen, often our first […]